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The Simple Guide to Relationships… or Why Love is Simpler Than You Think

Introduction Welcome to my half-assed manifesto. It’s a bit of a map of how I got to where I am, which is a place I happen to like. There’s an extremely slim chance you might find something interesting...

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“Creepy, doll.”

I’ve been experimenting with the word “creepy” and what it means.1 My current experiment is that we use “creepy” when we’re afraid to say “predatory.” Maybe it’s because we don’t want to offend...

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With great power…

One of the fundamental dynamics of any romantic relationship is this: Where responsibility is uncoupled from control, nothing but mischief can happen. In other words, if you want to exert control over...

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Check your system levels!

Here’s a quick and easy way to look at your relationships: check your System. Always have a sense of where the energy’s going in a relationship. That’s the one-sentence takeaway. The more detailed (but...

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The Functional Aspect of Rules

In relationships, I often hear a lot about rules. In particular, I’m talking about multiple adult relationships, but feel free to extract what makes sense for you out of this if this doesn’t apply to...

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“Restrictive Sexuality”

I often use the term “restrictive sexuality” when referring to monogamy. This is deliberate. I’ve been told I’m being mean, judgmental, negative, and a variety of other things when I use the term...

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“You jelly?”

Jealousy is ultimately an act of soul-abuse. Jealousy represents what happens when we cannot think of ourselves as actual human beings with thoughts, emotions, and lives. It’s when we reduce ourselves...

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Step one…

Someone asked me if I had any advice for people who might be just starting out on a path that included multiple adult partners. Who knew? So, I gave it a go. Treat people as you would want to be...

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Tat

“She knew the deal when she signed up.” You know how sometimes people in multipartner relationships say “Well, this person agreed to that kind of relationship dynamic when they signed on, so they have...

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Sweet-Talkin’

“How can I change my partner’s mind about multipartner relationships?” I think, roughly once a day, I see this question on a board or on a list or in a group somewhere. In my experience, when a person...

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